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I don't know if I am going to make it through Christmas. My birthday is coming up tomorrow as well. With my daughter not speaking to me or letting me know where she is and then one of my other sons is playing both of us against each other, no one will be here for me tomorrow. I doubt for Christmas either. I just don't understand why they can't for once think about someone other than themselves and see how hard this is for me. I don't want to be alone....I wanted them all here with me. Christmas day will be eight months since Jeremy's murder. I don't feel any better and I don't see how I ever will. I even apologized to my daughter and the only response I got back was that I am not a good mom or a good grandma and don't deserve to see any of them. I seriously don't understand exactly where I am to go from here.

Re: Struggling

Hi Alisa, I wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday. I know you are having a very hard time and I really feel for you. It is hard enough to deal with the death of our children without the added turmoil of family problems. I wish I could be there to give u a hug. Love ya.

Re: Struggling

Alisa I want to wish you a Happy Birthday as well. i am so sorry that you are having such a difficult time. Here is our Angels Christmas tree that I have in my living room for our babies. LOL, Paula

Re: Struggling

Wishing you a happy BD, just remember your angel Jeremy will always be by your side.
I am sorry you are having problems with your daughter.
Love and Hugs

Re: Struggling

Dear Alisa
I am wishing you a Happy Birthday,so you know we MOMS are here for you,sometimes when our family is not.It sucks but Birthdays will never be the same again for us,I'm afraid.I will be praying that your Christmas will be shared with your family,in some way.But everyone is right Jeremy will always be with you.You will make it through,it may not always be smooth sailing,but you will make it.You are a strong woman.Hang on to the love you hold for Jeremy and your family.Don't let anyone make you think you are not a good mother.You know better.Love and God Bless

Re: Struggling

Hey Alisa, sorry if I am late wishing you a happy birthday. I too just went thru a b/d and it was hard, I tried really hard, I made sure I did not cry on that day. My mom used to tell us when we were little that if you cried on your b/d you would have a sad year, boy I tell you i don't think it can get any sadder.

Each b/d, anniversary, holidays, etc. are excruciating. I wish you all the best and hope that you know your angel is with you always, so easy to say I know!


Re: Struggling

Alisa Happy belated birthday. I am so sorry that you are going through all the added turmoil. When we lose our child it seems like so many other things fall apart too. It affects every part of our life. You are a good mom and you don't forget that. Sending good thoughts your way,