Jill, Laura gave you some good links for North Carolina and it appears Yvonne Moore got the victim adocate award in 2008 and she is in Charlotte. I would start with her. Just explain to her the situation and get her to make contact with the DA's office for you. Maybe it will keep them on their toes if they know someone else will be keeping tabs on what is going on. Also call the DA's office in your area in Ohio and explain the situation to them. They should keep help you also. My son was murdered in Atlanta, Ga but we live in Memphis, Tn so we had about the same situation. We were lucky the Atlanta people kept us informed but I usually knew about court dates before they called because they keep their court calendar on line and I was able to pull it up every day. If I can help in any way please let me know. The DA's office in Ohio should be able to get you the names of local homicide support groups. I know POMC has some chapters in Ohio but not sure where you are in Ohio. You can go to their website and see if they have a physical chapter in your area.
Thank you everyone for your support. I will be contacting the NCVAN on Monday since they close at 1:00 on Fridays. As you all know, this is very very hard and I hyave been too sad to get mad yet. I don't understand or know anything about the process or what to expect, and a part of me doesn't care because it will not change anything for me. My son just graduated from college and was preparing for graduate school. We had just been down to visit him the end of December and had just met his killer. I just want him back
OHHH... JILL I AM SOOOO SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR SON JAY.AS ALL THE OTHER MOMS HAVE SAID YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE,WE ALL UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL AND WE ARE ALL HERE FOR EACH OTHER.SENDING YOU MANY MANY HUGS AND PRAYERS.
Hi Jill, I live in NC and may be able to help you with an advocate. Please feel free to contact me firstname.lastname@example.org. I am so sorry that u have joined our ranks but glad u have found us. I go in the chat room a lot of nites and would be glad to talk to u. I am so sorry for your loss.
Dear Jill It goes without saying that I'm sooo sorry for the loss of your son.Great that you found this site,it is a lifesaver to us all.It seems like you got enough information about advocates so I will just repeat what others have said.Please come on to rant,rave,cry,hug,share etc.We all do understand your pain and are very good listeners.God Bless and many,many hugs to you and your family love Barb
Sorry for your the loss of your son, and as the others have said you have come to the right place. We MOMS truely understand and even though we are
in different states, we are all still deal with the American Justice System and if we can be of any help, please let us know. Stop in the chat room when you feel you are ready, we are all here for you.
My thoughts and prayers are with u at this most difficult time.
Sorry to hear another mom is going down this road
they call murder.You will find that all the thoughts
you will have ,some of us have thought the same thing.
You are not alone.We have been going down this road for almost 11 years. We still have bad days . Hang in there. May God be with your family.
Bobbie Billy Lee's mom
my prayers are with you joann hubert so sorry
I'm so sorry that you have lost your son to murder.
You didn't tell us his name.
My son Wesley was stabbed to death July 19, 2004. He lived in Oregon and I in Utah. I called the District Attorneys office in Grants Pass and stumbled on to the Victims Advocate Ladies. They were a godsend to me and were helpful in every way possible. They sent me copies of the police reports, assisted with finding answers to every question I had, and even came with me to court. With all the advice and links and everything Deb Wiley told you, you should find yourself in good hands soon.
I'm glad you found us! I can't imagine how
much worse my life would be if I hadn't been able to
share my tears and grief with everyone here. ONLY they know how I feel. Please continue to visit, there is a lot of support and most of all understanding here.
Karen Wes's mom
Hi Jill, I'm sorry I missed your call. I was at my sister's. I tried calling you but no luck getting in touch. I will call again. I have thought a lot about you and I know what you mean about not getting mad. It has been almost 3 years since Keara was murdered and I have spent most of the time being so traumatized and so incredibly sad, rather than mad. I hope that we will be able to speak soon and I will do whatever I can to help you even if it's just to listen. Again I am so sorry that your son's life was taken.