“joy and sorrow are inseparable. . . together they come and when one sits alone with you . . remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.”
― Kahlil Gibran
I must agree Darien when we first came on the moms board there wasn't a day that went by that I did check it to see how everyone was doing and now I rarely do check it as there are days even weeks without a posting. I never thought we would all drift so far apart like this. I know facebook is partially responsible for that but that site too can hurt you when people get more comments about what's in the stomach rather that what's in your heart :(....Lois I think we have all felt slighted at one time or another and try to find a reason why this is but I think it is what it is and yes we must be more accepting and not judge why one did or didn't respond to a post. That can be hard when you open your heart, without any expectations, to help another mom is pain and your child is not even acknowledged. That would be the one expectations I would have and I don't think that is being unreasonable for one to say at least one comment about your murdered child. Nor do I think it is being judgemental. I have made many videos and kimis, etc. in hopes to help heal my own pain as well as the other moms and have their child's memory live on but it is very hurtful when your not even asked about your child or their name is ever mentioned. That is one of the most painful things "other" people do on a daily basis cuz we wouldn't want to the mention their name but when it is done by another mother that hurts....I 'm just sayin'.....And I think what Darien is saying that we just don't come here enough anymore and that is sad. Laura---Lisa's Mom
I agree with both Darien and Laura there were several of us moms that seemed to be here every day to support each other but it seems one by one we drifted away. I to agree that the fb pages have a lot to do with that. As for myself when I didn't answer a post it was because I just didn't know what to say. Yes believe it or not there are times when I don't know what to say. LOL But I will never forget my sister moms and I always keep you all in my heart and in my thoughts.
Love and Hugs
Thanks Laura and Shirley for understanding what I was trying to say. I too have been guilty of not coming on here much for the same reasons that you shared. For me facebook is too broad of an audience and I don't feel comfortable sharing all my deepest pain on there. I miss all "my" Moms and would love to talk to you all again.
Hi Moms, Sorry I haven't been here much. I have been dealing with the anniversary of Keara's death which was April 5th. It was seven years and not an easy time. For some reason this year was one of the worst I've had. Who says it gets easier with time? It was hard also that some of the Moms that I was very close to did not acknowledge her angel day. I imagine I have been guilty of that myself without Laura's calendar.