My youngest son was gunned down here in chicago on March 21, 2012. To say I am devastated is an understatement. My sons murder has divided my family, and I have been banned from maintaining a relationship with my sons surviving son. My reality is I lost my son twice. I cannot afford the liberty of being griefstricken and traumatized. I have to continue to function inspite of my insurmountable losses. I only have a few minutes to be upset, Chase home finance, comed, and peoples energy want to be paid, so I move forward to pay the bills and my son and his memory sometimes stops me in my tracks. I think of my son every day all day.
I am so very sorry for your loss, you know grandparents do have rights, my sons ex tried to keep his daughter away from me but because he had been murdered I was able to get grand parental rights. It has been 4 years and 7 months since my son was murdered and I have visitation with my granddaughter once a month for a weekend. Her mother has since decided that having Miss Sandra spend time with me is not such a bad thing. I too think of my son 24 - 7 even after all this time. But you are right the bills come no matter what so we keep moving on.
Hugs Jim's Mom