I was told Upson County has a website where I could check for trial dates. It shows every hearing date that we have had so far and then shows August 20, 2012 for the tentative trial date. We were told that it is better to start writing our victims impact statement ahead of the trial because once we hear all the testimony and evidence that will come out it may be harder to write it. My youngest daughter's birthday is Aug. 14th and my sister's will be Aug. 12th and they both have said that for the piece of crap that took Brandy's life to be found guilty would be the best birthday present either could get. I have to take medication just to sit through the hearings and I know it is going to be the same with the trial. I just hope and pray that I can make it through it without falling apart from listening to the evidence.
I think it is a good idea to write your impact statement before the trial begins. You can always add something to it as the trial progresses. Most of the time they continue the trial so definitely hang on to the tentative part so if they change it you will be prepared. Keara was murdered six years ago and I still take medication. You will make it through the trial. Somehow we all do.
Darien, I plan to sit down and write it but I want to wait until after July 5th to start it because I don't want to get so upset that I can't be of any help to my granddaughter. July 5th is the anniversary of her father's death and I look for it to be hard on Dale this year since her mother is gone too. Sometimes I wonder why when someone kills our family members that they have so many rights whereas our family members got a death sentence. It just isn't right.
Waiting sounds like a good idea with the anniversary date coming up. I know exactly what you mean about the murderers having rights and services that we can't get without paying for them. If you would like to talk by phone send me your number and I will call you. I have unlimited long distance. I don't know how much help I will be but sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who understands. I talk to one of the Moms oftem and it helps us both a lot. If you don't want to talk by phone we can continue to communicate on the Message Board. Hugs
I also want to mention that if parts of the trial are too hard you can walk out.
Darien, I didn't know you could get up and walk out if it gets too bad. I am glad you told me. My cell phone number is 478-391-0889 and it is with verizon. I can talk after 9:00 p.m. eastern time and all weekend because it is unlimited then. I would love to talk with you. Sometimes I feel like screaming when everything gets to me but it is kinda hard to when you have an 11 year old and a husband close by. We will be going to a free concert where Josh Turner will be preforming Monday evening. Some very special people have a surprise for my granddaughter, Dale, at the concert. Will have update everyone after the concert. Love you all and thanks for the support.
Hi Sherry, I'm glad that you are going to a concert. Things like that seem to help and it will be even better since your grandaughter is getting a surprise. I will give you a call soon. Does your cell phone get charged for incoming call?
My cell gets charged for the amount of minutes I use. There are 5 lines that share minutes. Once we go over our minutes we get charged more.
I am so glad we got to talk. As I said on the phone, feel free to call me any time and I will also call you. At the bottom of this message if you click on website, it will take you to Keara's site. Love ya, Darien
Darien, I am so glad we got to talk too. It really helped talking to you. Just being able to talk to someone who really understands the pain that I feel was better than talking to someone that is just guessing at it. I looked at the website, Keara was so beautiful and looked to be so full of life. From looking at the pictures and talking with you I would say Keara was like Brandy and looked for the good in a person instead of the bad. Feel free to call me if you need to talk. Love you too. Hopefully one day we will be able to meet each other in person.
It used to be that a lot of us would communicate on the message board, in the chat room, and by phone. I t doesn't seem t6o be that way much anymore which is a shame because it really does help to talk to people who understand.
It really is a shame. Sometimes I am not able to get on the computer and it is hard on me when I can't communicate with someone who understands. Just like earlier when my older brother called, he is such a know it all and acts like I don't know anything when it was my daughter that was murdered. I tried to tell him unless he has walked a day in my shoes he didn't know as much as he thought he knew. He had the nerve to tell me that if that had been one of his kids that had been murdered that the person that done it wouldn't be alive now. He acts like I can just go up to the jail and kill the boy that killed Brandy. It sure didn't help me to hear what he had to say. Made me feel like he thought we weren't doing anything. I stay in constant contact with the D.A.'s office. Thank you for being here when I need someone to talk too.
I'm sorry you had to deal with that.People sure have a lot to say about something they know nothing about. If he does it again maybe you could tell him you are getting upset and need to get off the phone. Some people think they know it all and they don't. Feel free to call me or email any time you want.