Yes you can we all are going thru this you r not along we r hear for you my son been gone years now and I use to think like you do but if I did that I will not get to see my son god heals all open wombs keep prayed up my son was killed july 27 2007 his is 1987 we all miss our angels each day I am praying that god give you peace the passed all understanding my son name is Hubert Ellsworth .