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My ten year old was murdered by her father.

Hello all,

My name is Raechel. My 10 year old daughter was taken from the playground infront of my mothers house without my permission on September 2nd 2011. Her father wasn't allowed unsupervised visitation and I called the police immediately. She was missing for 5 days, he killed her on the 4th day with a .45 semi-automatic rifle. He also killed her half sister (his other daughter) who was only 3 years old. He then committed suicide. MY daughter died on September 5th, I found out on the 6th and we buried her on the 12th. I am still in shock. I cried up to the funeral and then went back into a state of shock.

I set up a pretty memorial site for her, if you're interested here is the link

http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/noelsmemories/homepage.aspx

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hi Raechel
I'm so sorry for your loss of your daughter Noel. My son Chris was 27 when his father shot him 8 times, it will be 3 years Dec.11th and I miss him so
my heart breaks for the pain you are feeling I remember how alone I felt...I lost complete bladder control wore a diaper for almost 2 mos and again when I faced the monster in court for his plea deal 10 mos later. 2yrs with time served...he's been out 6 mos.
They found Chris the next day and then he tried to kill himself by running his van into a rock wall not fast enough though. He did have his lower leg amputeted before he was releasesed so he continues to be punished. That I'm sure has devastated him but he has shown no remorse for his cruelty.
It's good you found us who understand your loss and pain. I'm just so sad for the cicumstances that bring us together here
we all have this common bond but our stories differ...I just want to say how I am holding you in my heart as you start your day because I realise how hard that must be
I'm sorry Raechel. It's a horrible feeling wishing we could change things and knowing we can't.
Remember Raechel your heart has been injured in a way most can't imagine, be kind to youself
Sending you loving thoughts
Lois

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Hello Raechel

I am so very sorry for your loss, your little Noel such a cutie with a great smile seems she was very creative too, love the mom song. you are doing a great job with her memorial site.
Sending Hugs
Jim's Mom

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Wow lios, I have thoroughly wished that he was still alive so that I could have somewhere to direct my anger. But now hearing your point of view, I'm not so sure that I would want him breathing. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I can't believe that he only got 2 years?!?

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Thanks Jim's mom! I appreciate the compliments. She was a very funny and creative little girl <3

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I am Sherry...My daughter, Jill, and her unborn children were murdered by her husband, a deputy sheriff while he was on duty. My daughter was eight and a half month's pregnant. I am so very sorry about the death of your little girl and her step-sister. I know the pain you are feeling. After twenty-five years, I can still feel it. It will ease, but it never goes away. I went into shock within the hour after hearing that my daughter and grand-babies were murdered. I was in extreme shock for two years until the trial was over and in shock for several years. I felt dead inside for many years and not myself. Shock is a good thing because it eases the blow, otherwise I think that I would have gone crazy. Thank goodness I had my husband to validate my feelings. Every time that I asked him if it was 'normal' to feel a certain way, he would answer, "You bet it is." Do everything that you feel compelled to do to make yourself feel better. Surround yourself with loving friends and family. I can't stress enough, be kind to yourself. As Mother's, we usually think of ourselves last, but now is the time to think of yourself first in getting well. Your have to grieve. Allow yourself that. There is no time limit on grief. After twenty-five years, my husband and I have heard it all and been through a lot of terrible issues in the family. You have to stand firm in your feelings about your child and don't let anyone tell you anything different. Here to help...Lovingly, Sherry

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I am so sorry for your loss. I looked up the memorial and Noel is a doll. Very cute. My daughter Laycee was murdered almost 3 and a half years ago. My live in boyfriend at the time beat her to death while i was at work and lied and said she fell off the couch. He punched her in the face and head several times. There were fistmarks on her face. She was badly bruised. Laycee was not even 13 months old yet. I know the pain you feel and i am so sorry. sometimes i think im still in shock. im not sure i fully accept the fact that this really happened that she was ever even here. like it was all a dream. sometimes i dream that it was all a dream she never really died.anyways you came to the right place, your in my thoughts. sometimes you just gotta take it minute by minute.

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wow guys, yeah this is definitely the right place.

Your 14 month old was sooo cute!

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Raechal, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter.It is a nightmare come true. I don't think any of us ever imagined that our children would be murdered. I hope you continue to communicate with us. It helps. My daughter Keara was murdered on April 5th 2006 by her boyfriend. He beat her, strangled her and stabbed her nine times in the neck. I also was in shock for quite awhile. Somehow we get through the days but it's hard. I still am in therapy which has been a good thing for me. I am sending you love and hugs.