I read your post and think back and remember the terrible pain I was in at three months after My Jim's murder. Three months is such a short amount of time I know it feels like a life time, I can tell you that the pain you are in right now will soften. It has been 3 and 1/2 years for me I still hurt for my son every day and I still have days that I have major breakdowns and think how in the world do I keep living like this. You are going to make it and I for one will be here for you to vent to anytime you feel the need.
Hugs Jim's mom
Hi Gretchen, Unfortunately major breakdowns are part of this process but as Shirley said the pain will soften in time. It never seems to go away though and there are times that I still have major breakdowns even after five years. I think we all feel as if we can't live without our kids but somehow we do. All we can do is take it one step at a time, one moment at a time. I am here for you also and if you want to go into chat send me an email and I will go in also. Sat. evenings are good for me.Love ya.
