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3 months

well last night i had a major breakdown. i cant believe its only been three months, it feels like a lifetime without him. i dont know if i am strong enough to make it without him if this is how its going to be. i miss him so much and i just want to move away, every where i go or look i see him or have a memory of something that happened with him there. its so painful. sorry, just needed to vent a lil, hope all you ladies are doing as well as can be! hugs!!!

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Hi Gretchen

I read your post and think back and remember the terrible pain I was in at three months after My Jim's murder. Three months is such a short amount of time I know it feels like a life time, I can tell you that the pain you are in right now will soften. It has been 3 and 1/2 years for me I still hurt for my son every day and I still have days that I have major breakdowns and think how in the world do I keep living like this. You are going to make it and I for one will be here for you to vent to anytime you feel the need.
Hugs Jim's mom

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thank you so much! hugs

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Hi Gretchen, Unfortunately major breakdowns are part of this process but as Shirley said the pain will soften in time. It never seems to go away though and there are times that I still have major breakdowns even after five years. I think we all feel as if we can't live without our kids but somehow we do. All we can do is take it one step at a time, one moment at a time. I am here for you also and if you want to go into chat send me an email and I will go in also. Sat. evenings are good for me.Love ya.

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thank you so much, i will try and go to chat this sat if i dont work. again, thanks and hugs and love to you too