hello there,i'm so sorry you are going through this... i understanad completely when you talk about your other son's fighting eachother out of control and how the family is a mess.my two boys are a 5 yr difference and they can't seem to get along sometimes and just snap at eachother. family is upside down too. My son Michael's 25th bday will be July 17th. I sit and wonder at times what he would be doing and what he would look like if any different from when he passed away 3 yrs ago.There is no words to say....