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Karen Wes's mom
IP: 12.72.180.217 Jun 24, 07 - 1:50 PM |
I heard you were looking for me.
Just Kidding. Hi Moms! Never be gone so long they forget who you are! Yea, right. What's the word on Robin? I have spent the last 7 hours getting caught up. My, my, somebody slipped through a crack, or should I say slithered, and really did some damage. I can not understand the payoff this person was looking for. That is all I'll say as it no longer is a subject. Done. I don't know why I've been hiding around the corner. Maybe I was giving your brains a rest. I still have my deep dark hole, I planted tomatoes this year. Karren I've been listening for you, over here, I'm waving a bottle of Baileys. My wheels started turning when someone mentioned "senior trip". My first thoughts went to the planning of our candle lighting, we were lucky to be able to zero in on a day that everyone was good with. How do we go about planning a, well, not a reunion, we can't re when we haven't unioned. I guess it would be a "union" senior trip. Here is my idea. Summer, spa, resort, vacation, time off work, forget it. Since we all pretty much agree that Christmas sucks why not plan on planning a first annual moms union (the following one we can add the re) at Christmas time? I know, I know, How in the world do we come up with party I mean travel money at Christmas? The answer is simple. Buy no gifts. Yes moms, tell everyone to keep their fruitcake, (they'll be glad to be released from the obligation of buying you a gift) and we'll use the money we would of spent on them to get ourselves at the same spot at the same time. Our loved ones will be glad to be rid of our sour, sorry attitudes and we'll be looking forward to the holidays. (for once in a row). My next idea is way out of my league so other than pan handling at the airport for bus fare, is there a market out there for hand made quilts made by grieving mothers? That's all I can go, I drop the ball here. I know there are (probably all of us) moms who's budgets make it absolutely impossible to do this. That's why when it gets to the hard part I'm outta ideas. We could choose a sight nearest to those who can not travel. Personally I'd like to get as far away from home as I can. Preferrably before the tree needs decorating. I suppose husbands, boyfriends, etc... can come with, as long as they know they are picking up the tab. (Just kidding) But they do have to stay in the room and give us a break from grieving, so we can go paint the town. Which ever one(town) will have us. Since this year is almost half over and most of you ladies probably have your Christmas shopping done we could always shoot for Christmas 2008. That way I'll have enough time to get a haircut and buy a new tooth brush. Oh, It will probably be a good idea to have me bunk with someone who sleeps heavily sedated. I grind my teeth, talk, sing, laugh, cry, and screem in my sleep. Oh and forget bringing too many clothes, we'll stay in our p.j.'s the whole time anyway. Stuff your cases with photo albums! For just one second did you catch yourself thinking that Christmas might not be so bad this (or next) year? Ideas? Karen Wes's mom |
TERRY{CEDRIC\'S}MOM
IP: 69.153.221.50 Jun 24th, 2007 - 7:15 PM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Hi Karen you are so funny I haven't laught in so long and I see you like Baileys I don't really drink that much but when I do this is one of my drinks that I love and it also make a very good cake.I know this because all my fat ass do is bake it help me to be doing something and my son loved my cooking.So hey when we have that trip I bring somefood to cook so maybe it will be nice if we get a room stove.Thanks for making me smile I love you my sister mom.GOD BLESS YOU TERRY{CEDRIC'S}MOM |
Karen Wes's mom
IP: 12.72.168.48 Jun 24th, 2007 - 9:31 PM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Terry, I'm pleased to have brought a smile to you today. I had so much going through my mind after reading the messageboard. My coping skills overpowered the real reason why I come here and I just couldn't stop myself from trying to "lighten" up. I am so guilty of trying to manipulate my emotions with humor. I can deny just about any feeling by spinning out of it with something stupid or funny. I need you all so much. The desire to hug you all, to hold you all and cry together in real person is burning inside me like I know it will happen. I want to look forward to looking in everyones eyes. I know I could pick you all out of a line up. My state of mind is such that whatever tomorrow brings is something I dread. Anniversary dates of loved ones, mine and yours, due dates for bills that I know won't get paid, and then rent's due again. I have no happy days on my calendar! I'm getting real good at finding nothing to feel happy about. I confess that I get warm and fuzzy when I make someone laugh. That rates right up there with hearing my boyfriend say "Yes hon, you are right, and I was wrong". Terry your posts are so very down to the bone with raw emotion, you make it easy for me to relate with how you feel. Having a large dose of moms message board today has made me come back to myself (if only for a peek) and see that I still have a huge mess of tangeled cords deeply within that I need to pay attention to. It's like this windchime I have that was a tangeled mess and looked like a ball. As I worked at untangeling it, the path I had untied was getting tangled behind me. Comming to terms with my sadness is too hard. I'd rather find the funny parts. Karen Wes' mom |
TERRY[CEDRIC'S}MOM
IP: 69.153.221.50 Jun 25th, 2007 - 12:35 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
I know what your talking about and we have all the same feeling.I wish you live in TX and we could met and talk because I also would love to met all the moms who have saved my life. Karen I don't know what and the hell I would do what out you sweet people and I know you feel the same.I'm sorry your feeling some what down and I wish I could do something to help you.if I had one wish I would wish you all had your kids and I would go to heaven to be what my baby just to see you all happy whould make me happy.Thank you for being my friend. Today I was feeling kind of sad this week end because one of the boys who murder my son was murder a few weeks ago but I was told by a friend on friday and to make things worst my sons girlfriend of 6years foundout that the boy who was murdered was someone in her family that she had not seen in years and her family loved my son but just go to show you when you loss out on being with family you never know what could happend.I love her family and have never met this boy but she said the last time she seen him she thinks he was about 6 or 7 years old so she is very hurt to know that someone in her family murder my son and as for me I feel so hurt that they shot my son 3times in the head over bad words how sad is that for all the murders to take our kids from us.The sad thing is I feel sorry for his mother I don't think she's a bad person because I hard that he said bad words to his mother just before someone walked up and murderd him .What wrong with me to even care about her when her son and his friends murderd my only son my baby my heart my soul something I know we will never get back. I pray to GOD he help all of us .Sorry my sister mom I just don't know how to feel anymore. God bless you and your love one's love Terry{Cedric's} mom |
Karen Wes's mom
IP: 12.72.181.241 Jun 25th, 2007 - 3:17 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Terry, I'm the kind of thinker that tries to see all the angles. I need for things to make sence in order to understand them. Wesley age 21 was stabbed to death by a 16 year old punk. The murder went down in a manner that if Wes would of known he had a knife, or if their movements had been altered there might of been a dead 16 year old punk, making my 21 year old son a murderer. I spent so much thought on this that I probably "lived it" in my mind. Tracey Terrell's mom posted "Is This A Test" I believe you replied also. I put my mind into how a mom of a murderer would feel. I had already tormented myself with those thoughts when I realized my son's murder could maybe of gone either way. (Assuming I fall into the "good mom" catagory) I didn't raise a son capable of murder, with that aside though, It would be totally impossible for me to walk away from my son because he murdered. I could not waver in my love for my son, it is there so deeply it can't be altered or removed no matter what. I was truely troubled by the woman in Traceys post. With all of the petty crap she created put aside, along with any mental health issues she may of had I have to wonder....How do you live your life being the mother of a murdered son and the mother of a murderer? I really had second thoughts about posting it. I was worried everyone would beat me up after school and not allow me to come over any more. My point was not an effort to change anyones thinking. I had simply come to the realization, no matter what, a mothers love doesn't go away. I think it is how one chooses to live their life and the manner in which they treat others that counts. Give my reply to Tracey a read if you get a chance. Karen Wes's mom Oh, does any one out there know how you would use the word rectitude in a sentence? It is a good word and it seems to me that I need to use it due to the fact that there are a lot of people out there that have none, their make up as humans lack it. |
Karren ~ Christopher's Mom in Mississippi
IP: 72.147.216.98 Jun 25th, 2007 - 10:38 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
RECITUDE! Can't help ya. But would love to know who can... Karen, I guess us being in that dark hole has done the veggies some good. I planted tomatoes, squash, okra, cucumbers, peppers. And they've made more than I can keep up with. I guess that's from my pushing them up from underground. Then again it could have been from a glass of Bailey's in one hand and the water hose in the other. Guess we'll never know... My daddy would be so proud of my little garden. Cause when I left the farm I swore I'd never touch another garden as long as I lived. Yea Right! Amazing what the age thing does to ya. Girl, I wouldn't have a problem making changes at Christmas... I haven't had Christmas since Christopher was murdered. I haven't put up a tree or any decorations and I certainly haven't bought gifts. Last year I planned for months to be the Christmas that I got back on track. But the closer it got the farther I got from it happening. I'm gonna try again for this year. But I'm not holding out much hope on it. Now Terry, I'm all about the Cake thing. I LOVE to bake and cook... And my A** doesn't need it either, but that hasn't stopped me yet. Yesterday it was a "Crisco Pound Cake" and "Homemade Icecream" ... Can't you just see FAT ASS written all over that? But oooohhhhh how good it was. |
Terry{Cedric's} mom
IP: 69.153.221.50 Jun 25th, 2007 - 11:08 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Karren I know just what your saying and girl you should see my fat a-- well maybe you shoundn't. But I'm like you it's notthing like homemade anything. The only thing I need to work on is making rose's on my cakes.But to be real it helps me sometime to just bake,cook it will not take the pain away but it help me because my son loved everything I cooked and would sit there with me and we would talk,laugh how good them days were.So when I cook it helps me to think of the good old days and the fun me and my kids had. But dam I am getting fater but hey some men like us big girls....ya right !!!!!!!!!!!! |
Karren ~ Christopher's Mom in Mississippi
IP: 72.147.216.98 Jun 25th, 2007 - 11:29 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
I know what ya' mean... And don't feel to bad about the roses on the cakes.. I've been decorating birthday and wedding cakes for 30 years and my roses still suck... But they sure do taste good. My baby loved my cooking and baking too. Especially for his birthday he'd come up with some of the craziest things that he wanted his cake to look like. He knew that I'd manage to make it like he wanted. And good thing for me that Chris doesn't like extra meat on the bones or else I'd eat everything till it's gone, but instead he feeds his guys at the Fire Department with it. And they sure don't complain. They usually even suggest what for me to make next. All this talk of food has me hungry already... Oh yea, Terry we just got a new eaten place here. Opened by some people that had to run from Katrina too. And it's that great New Orleans cooking. The other day I was in there selling advertising as I do for a living and the owner was taste testing a new recipe for Blackened Soft Shell Crab. He invited me to try it ... oh my god! My timing was perfect that day... You know what kinda food I'm talking about. Okay... lunch time! |
Kay mom of Joshua Delaney
IP: 75.71.91.245 Jun 26th, 2007 - 12:01 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Rectitude rightness of principle or conduct; moral virtue: the rectitude of her motives. 2. correctness: rectitude of judgment. 3. straightness. also righteousness. Now you all know if you put something out there the anayst in me comes out. The rectitude of her moral values showed in her decisions. Karen I just love your humor. It makes my day. Kay |
Lorre
IP: 207.200.116.70 Jun 27th, 2007 - 11:44 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Welcome back Karen, You have been SORELY missed. I am glad you're back, I for one need you! Have you bought yourself a dishwasher yet? I just have to know! Also, I'll be thinking about the Christmas thing...sounds interesting but I'll post more later on that front. Love you Lorre |
Tracey (Terrell's MOM)
IP: 70.16.255.242 Jun 30th, 2007 - 11:18 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Hey Ms. Karen: Welcome back Girl because you and your sense of humor have truly been missed because I haven't had a good laugh in a long time. I love your idea about a MOMS getaway and Christmas is the best time for me especially since Terrell was killed on December 18. It also sounds like it would be cheaper too, since it will be off-peak season in most places. It gives me something to at least be excited for because God knows, we all need it. Not only would it be a reunion...it will be a family reunion because it would give me a chance to reunite in person with my all my Sisters. I'm thinking that renting a house would be a good idea. As a city girl for NY, I look forward to all that good southern and cajun cooking Karren and Terry can do and I can bring the Baileys, Rum, Vodka, Rum, Whiskey, Beer and Wine. Love You and God Bless Tracey (Terrell's MOM) |
Calla Hann
IP: 71.135.103.68 Nov 9th, 2007 - 8:58 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
If you wish to remain in this program you will never display improbity but rather act with recitude always. Oops, I think |
Karen Wes's mom
IP: 75.162.221.59 Nov 14th, 2007 - 8:33 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Ladies, This post has been revived!! How about it? (re)union time? Karen Wes's mom p.s. thanks Calla Hann. |
Kasi's Mama
IP: 75.89.50.26 Nov 14th, 2007 - 5:59 PM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
Hi Karen, I am new to this site, old to our common bond. Still broken and beyond repair. But you really made me laugh. Have you ever thought about writing a book? |
Karen Wes's mom
IP: 75.162.107.150 Nov 22nd, 2007 - 10:29 AM |
Re: I heard you were looking for me.
There was a time in my life (about age 12 or 13) that I would cry and want to scream because I felt so misunderstood. I told myself that when I grew up I would write a book about my feelings. Looking back at it now it was probably for selfish reasons that I wanted my emotions published. I wondered if all girls felt as frustrated as I did. I think mostly I wanted my parents to know how mean and unfair I thought they were and that I thought they hated me, didn't understand me, and most of all... that I was always right. |
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