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Yvonne Sheppard (Joshie Underwood\\\'s mom)
 IP: 71.236.42.115 Dec 6, 06 - 3:45 PM |
my new grandbaby
Moms, I dont know if posted about this or not. My middle son(who was with Joshua when he was murdered) found out on the first anniversary of Joshua's death, that he was going to be a father. He thought it was a sign , of new beginnings, etc. They had their first ob/gyn appt this morning. The baby is dead. He is devastated. I thought the doctor would do some kind of something, but they said to wait and let nature take its course. So this poor woman, and my son, are walking around waiting to flush their child down the toilet. They saw the baby on ultrasound, Jeremy said he saw its head, then from there it was heart, but no heartbeat. Is this normal to send a mother home, and make her wait to pass this child? Love, Yvonne |
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michele
IP: 71.97.129.97 Dec 6th, 2006 - 5:45 PM |
Re: my new grandbaby
yvonne, i am very sory for the loss of your grandchild. i have heard of the doctors sending you home and waiting for nature to take its course. if the child died at an early gestational age it will just reabsorb into the mothers body. or just pass with a slightly more crampy menstration. i personally had a friend who's baby died a week or two before it was due and they had her labor and deliver this child even though it was already dead. they could do a d&c on your sons girlfriend but that would physically be harder on her than just to let the body expell the baby naturally. i know this all sounds so technical and unemotional. again, i am sorry for the loss of your grandchild. god bless |
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Lorre
IP: 207.200.116.70 Dec 6th, 2006 - 8:59 PM |
Re: my new grandbaby
Dear Yvonne, I am so sorry. This brought back so many emotions. A year and a half ago Josie's sister was supposed to deliver the first grandchild of the family (a boy) we were thrilled all through the pregnancy and truly thought that is was a gift of healing. At 32 weeks she went in for her appointment and the doctor just looked at her and said "The baby is dead". We were ALL devastated. Then this beautiful young girl and her boyfriend had toto the hospital, after 3 days with pitocin she delivered their son, perfect and dead. It was so strange because at the birth when the doctor was manipulating the child out, I had the STRONGEST impulse that I have ever had in my entire life to get up and pummel the snot out of him. I REALLY had to fight it by telling myself that it would only make an awful situation impossible. I just feel that the MD did not watch over her carefully enough. And I believe I was channeling Taelor or Josie or BOTH of them! It was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever witnessed. I know that your son has had a rough time of it, and from what Michele said this is natural protocol. You never know what the future holds, and he is going to have to trust that healing will come, in another form. I am so sorry for your family, what a terrible blow on top of all else. I don't know how, but we made it though this so I am hoping that you all will too. Love, Lorre |
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Randi-Mark's Mom
IP: 75.2.145.244 Dec 6th, 2006 - 11:05 PM |
Re: my new grandbaby
Dear Yvonne, I am so sorry about your grandchild. I can't imagine how you feel at this time. I don't have any answers for you regarding sending the mom home or what to do. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. If you don't already have enough to live without, I'm so very sorry Yvonne. Hugs to you my friend, Randi |
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Yvonne Sheppard (Joshie Underwood\\\\'s mom)
IP: 71.236.42.115 Dec 7th, 2006 - 7:19 AM |
Re: my new grandbaby
Moms, Thank you all. I will be fine. And they will be too in time, but their sense of loss is valid. I explained to them that this is natures way of preventing a very unhealthy baby from being born. I told them to think about a name for the baby, and if they wanted to, we will have a little memorial service. I told Jeremy that Joshua would take care of the little baby, and he smiled, because he knows it to be true. Love, Yvonne |
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Michelle Simon
IP: 65.196.101.100 Dec 7th, 2006 - 7:50 AM |
Re: my new grandbaby
Yvonne,I am so sorry for the loss of your grandchild. I suffered a mscarriage at about 10 weeks once and it was heartbreaking. As in your case, my baby had no heartbeat. However, my doctor did do a D&C to remove the fetus a day or two later. We were told that some times these things happen and that there was probably some defect anyway and nature took its course. Also, we were told that there was no reason why I couldn't get pregnant again and have a healthy child. I got pregnant with my daughter a few years later..... |
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michele
IP: 71.97.129.97 Dec 7th, 2006 - 7:55 AM |
Re: my new grandbaby
yvonne, tears rolled down my cheeks as i read your last post. you are right that josh is with his neice or nephew. isnt that such a comforting feeling. when my heart aches for my sons i always immagine someone (deceased) i love holding them in heaven. not to mention the Lord our Savior. |
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