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andreas mom
 IP: 12.15.103.226 Dec 4, 06 - 1:15 PM |
is this a safe place?
this is my 7th holiday season without my daughter. i know that according to the world i should be okay by now. i am not. instead in some ways i feel worse than ever. as though the pain has been pushed so far down that it is strangling me. there seems to be no safe places or people left to grieve with. people talk about how hard it is to allow themselves to be happy again. happy i have no problem with, it is still expressing the sadness and pain that is hard for me. the world shuts us up after the first couple of years and then it is all internalized. please help me express this pain inside or it will surely kill me. is it safe here to talk about how you REALLY feel? |
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Lorre
IP: 207.200.116.70 Dec 4th, 2006 - 2:12 PM |
Re: is this a safe place?
Dear Andrea's Mom, If your sweet daughter was murdered, this will indeed be not only a safe place, but the right place for you. Mothers of murdered children face a unique set of challenges and we often work through them together. Here you will find women who I believe to be the finest individuals I have had the pleasure of communicating with. We all hold eachother up in our sorrow. I am sorry for the loss of your child, if you feel we are the right fit, please let us know how we can help you. Love, Lorre |
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Yvonne Sheppard (Joshie Underwood\\\\\\'s mom)
IP: 71.236.45.99 Dec 4th, 2006 - 2:23 PM |
Re: is this a safe place?
AMEN to what Lorre said. |
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andreas mom
IP: 12.15.103.226 Dec 4th, 2006 - 4:48 PM |
Re: is this a safe place?
my daughter was killed by vehicular manslaughter (ie a drunk driver). there are those who do not consider this murder. does this board? and yes there are issues that i deal with that those who have lost a child in other ways have no concept of. let me know if i am still welcome here. thank you. |
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connie marchant
IP: 216.166.159.185 Dec 4th, 2006 - 5:12 PM |
Re: is this a safe place?
Hello, I can't speak for all the MOMS on this site, but I feel that the person who decided to get behind the wheel of a car while he or she was disabled by alcohol, is just as guilty as the ones that decided to take our children's lives!!!! Maybe not in the laws eyes but to lose a child by another one's hands is it!!!! You can rest assured that everyone on this site knows every hurt, every emotion known and then some and will be by your side all the way and not always reply to your post but guranteed they know and feel your pain clear to the bone! This site has saved my sanity and made me look at all angles of the situation that day and be able to cope with everything handed or I should say slammed in my face!! Thoughts & Prayers, Connie Marchant Son Justin murdered Sept. 13, 2004. |
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Karen Wes's mom
IP: 12.72.182.23 Dec 4th, 2006 - 7:16 PM |
Re: is this a safe place?
Welcome, Andreas mom, You could not of landed on a better spot. The MOMS on this site know what your feeling. We understand the depth of your sorrow and the endless ache of emptiness. 7 years or 7 days it still hurts. A Mother that has never lost a child by the hands of another does not know how to help comfort you. Many people, family included, DO NOT KNOW what we feel........ every day, or how much our world has changed. More to the point how lucky they are to not be one of us. We all share our sadness. Support is in abundance from us, and, for us, by one and another. We manage to cry together and we also celebrate our victories together. We can feel each others words. Being the mother of a murdered child is the hardest thing a human has ever had to endure. See.....you didn't know I knew that did ya. lol Welcome to the only place that I feel apart of... and the safest place to unload your tears. I'm saving my tears for a rainy day. We might have to move again, the buckets are getting in the way. Welcome Andreas mom. Sometimes we are cute and fun too. Karen Wes's mom |
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Lorre
IP: 207.200.116.70 Dec 4th, 2006 - 8:29 PM |
Re: is this a safe place?
Dear Andrea's MOM, My step-daughter was killed by a drunk driver in 1996 after graduating highschool with honors. Five years later, my parents my son and future daughter in law were murdered in my folks home by a whack job who had a thing for my son's girl. There are different dynamics to each, mostly intent verses immeasurable stupidity, but you know what...both resulted in the deaths of my family members and destroyed so much. And I think both are criminal. I believe that your honesty and letting us know the situation makes you a perfect fit for us, it you want to join in, please feel welcomed. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious angel daughter. God Bless~ Love, Lorre |
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michele
IP: 71.97.129.97 Dec 6th, 2006 - 2:28 PM |
Re: is this a safe place?
the answer to your question is a simple yes. this definately is a safe place to express your feelings and receive support from women who know how you feel. it has been six years since both of my sons were murdered and i too have the problem you expressed. aparently society believes that i have greived long enough. that i should be over this by now. i have found peace with what has happened but there are times when it all comes rushing back. as a mother of a murdered child i do understand what you are going through. i hope that you will find the amazing women on this site to be very helpful to you and i am sure that you can be a source of inspiration to the moms here who are newly bereaved and feel as though they cannot go on another minute. welcome |
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andreas mom
IP: 12.31.255.238 Dec 6th, 2006 - 3:00 PM |
Re: is this a safe place?
thank you all for your warm welcome. it is so hard when you first lose a child and i would not want those first years back for anything. yet i have found that after time passes, you are no longer a part of the world anymore. and i am trying so hard to find peace with that. again i thank you and pray for comfort for all here. andreas mom |
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