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Karen Wes's mom
 IP: 12.72.180.99 Nov 23, 06 - 12:23 PM |
What do I have to be thankful for?
I can almost answer this myself. It is a stupid question really. It just seems that being blessed with minus one child is so much bigger than everything and everyone that I am thankful for. Good health included. I would like to mention that I know that my boyfriend is REALLY grateful that I have you all. He might not be aware of it, but when he sees me reading or posting to you moms I see a look of relief in his eyes. He's been holding me up all the way. I'll try and put what I DO have in front of what I DON'T have today. (as I should everyday) I'll stay focused on friends and family and also be thankful for the numerous drinks I'm about to have. Happy Thanksgiving Moms. Karen Wes's mom, ( I'm thankful to be Wesley's brother Michael's mom, and Grandma to Wes's children Landon and Wesleigh. |
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michele
IP: 71.97.129.97 Nov 23rd, 2006 - 7:13 PM |
Re: What do I have to be thankful for?
i understand why you are having a hard time finding something to be thankful for...when you have lost a child it is such an overwhelming life changing event. i have felt what you are feeling right now and at times like this (thanksgiving) when other people are celebrating and making lists of things that they are thankful for it can make you feel angry that they have so much to be thankful for that they are making lists and you cannot even think of one thing... I UNDERSTAND! but to simply answer your question "what do you have to be thankful for?" THE HONOR OF BEING WES' MOM AND FOR THE JOY THAT HIS SHORT LIFE BROUGHT TO YOURS! god bless you at this difficult time when being happy seems like a distant memory. keep your head up girl. things are gona get easier! |
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Eric\'s Ma Onna
IP: 207.200.116.70 Nov 24th, 2006 - 4:56 PM |
Re: What do I have to be thankful for?
Hey Karen, Bless you for speaking for me. Bottom's up! Eric's Ma Onna |
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Karen Wes's mom
IP: 12.72.169.201 Nov 25th, 2006 - 4:49 AM |
Re: What do I have to be thankful for?
Thank you Michele. I am proud to be Wes's mom. I just finished reading the post by Lorre about another lesson. My mind is soaking that in right now and I almost feel like a whiner after giving her post alot of thought. I appreciate your support more than you know. Thank You. Karen Wes's mom p.s. Onna, Oh Onna, will you please email me so I may have your email address. I was shocked to find that it was not in my address book! |
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Tracey (Terrell's MOM)
IP: 209.158.212.125 Nov 25th, 2006 - 5:18 PM |
Re: What do I have to be thankful for?
During this holiday, I asked myself the same question and realized that although I grieve everyday for the loss of my son, there are some things that I am thankful for. I'M THANKFUL, that although his life was cut short, God blessed me with a wonderful son for 22 years. I'M THANKFUL, that God's word promises that my son is safe and I will see him again. I'M THANKFUL, that Debbie Wiley despite her own loss and grief,established this forum that has allowed me to meet (albeit through cyberspace)some remarkable women. I'M THANKFUL, that I have a computer so that I can communicate with other MOMS. I'M THANKFUL, although, I have lifelong friends, I have found friends through MOMS that will be friends for eternity. I'M THANKFUL, that when I feel like a nobody, there are MOMS who make me feel like I matter. I'M THANKFUL, that when I feel crazy and alone there are MOMS who know how I feel which makes me no longer feel so crazy and definitely not alone. It breaks my heart that the loss of our children has brought us together but GOD KNOWS I'M THANKFUL FOR MOMS. Peace to all MOMS Tracey (Terrell's MOM) |
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Tracey (Terrell's MOM)
IP: 209.158.212.125 Nov 25th, 2006 - 5:29 PM |
Re: What do I have to be thankful for?
Hi Karen, I read your post where you wrote, "you almost feel like a whiner" and I read other posts where MOMS have the same sentiment. My first thoughts was that given all the trival things people seem to worry about, the last thing a mother who has lost her child can be is a whiner or a complainer but then I looked up the defintions of what it is to whine and complain. To whine is "to utter a distressed cry" and to complain is to "express grief, pain, or discontent". We do have to count our blessing and be thankful for all that we have but by definition MOMS are all whiners and complainers and we have every right to be. God Bless You Tracey (Terrell's MOM) |
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michele
IP: 71.97.129.97 Nov 25th, 2006 - 8:47 PM |
Re: What do I have to be thankful for?
karen, i too read your post regarding whining and complaining; before i even read tracey's post i wanted to say almost the same thing she did. if you feel like whining and complaining then you go right ahead. tracey's response was so insightful. i couldn't have put my thoughts into words any better than she already did. please let me add that this web site was created to help mothers of murdered children support eachother! we come here for support and to support one another. if it makes you feel any better, when i hear someone "whine" about their loss or feelings at that time it HELPS me to know that "okay, she feels like this too. so i am not crazy." i help you;you help me. that is what we do. and tracey, thank you for the wonderful list of things MOMS have to be thankful for. they really are many-but when your heart has been ripped out, sometimes the pain is so intense that it consumes you!!!!! |
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Eric\\'s Ma Onna
IP: 207.200.116.70 Nov 26th, 2006 - 1:36 AM |
Re: What do I have to be thankful for?
Hi Karen. My email address is Onna777@aol.com. Hello Tracey it was so nice to see your name. I am slowly coming out of a month long funk and am so glad to see my friends are still here. Love to you. Eric's Ma Onna |
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Tracey (Terrell's MOM)
IP: 209.158.212.125 Nov 26th, 2006 - 10:56 AM |
Re: What do I have to be thankful for?
Hi Ms. Onna: I know what it feels like to be in a funk and am happy to see that you are coming out of yours. I've learned that once I make it out of the funk, I am a little stronger. It's as if I need that funky period to regain my strength until the next funk session which starts to be a little less frequent. Please know that we ALL understand, support and pray for you because, "WE ARE FRIENDS FOR ETERNITY" Love, Tracey (Terrell's MOM) |
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