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Kathy Mordecai \\\\\\"Ty\\\\\\'s Mom\\\\\\"
 IP: 70.128.123.89 Nov 5, 06 - 9:28 PM |
They say Time Heals All
They say Time HealS All-----------WHATEVER, NOT THIS, NOT LOOSING A CHILD TO MURDER! |
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Kayt Fossler
IP: 216.98.171.18 Nov 5th, 2006 - 10:53 PM |
Re: They say Time Heals All
It really does Kathy, I'm almost 5 years into this journey and it does get easier.Of course I have already been through the legal muck, the rejection from friends and family and the bitter bitter heartache of the first few years. I do smile, I do look forward to my granchildren and I don't wake up wanting to die everyday. Right now you need to take one second at a time, it will then be one minute then eventually a day and so on. Our kids don't want us to be miserable, they don't want us to be bitter.They are home, they are happy, we will be some day too. Kayt |
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michele
IP: 71.97.129.97 Nov 6th, 2006 - 8:01 AM |
Re: They say Time Heals All
dearest kathy, i have been reading your postings for a week now and think about you constantly. My heart truely goes out to you because you are in the worst part of the greif process. I remember feeling as if i could not go on. the pain was so unbearable. I would wake up every morning and go check the boys room to see if they were there. hoping that i had dreamed this all. but instead of their sweet little bodies laying in their pokemon beds there were flowers from their caskets and cards from all of the school children. i would check anyhow just in case. this is a tough road that you are on. time does not heal all! but it will turn your gaping wound into a small hole. the hole in your heart will always be there but will not always feel as if you are dying from the inside out. be patient with yourself. in the first few months i remeber friends coming and running me a bath; striping me naked; and forcing me to get in! i fought them the whole way. there seemed to be no point. do not give up on life. you still have purpose here. do not try to climb out of this dark hole yet. just sit there and process it. give it a while to sink in that ty is gone in the physical sense. love never dies and i truely believe that his spirit is with you trying to comfort you through all of this. look for signs from him. his earthly body may be dead but his soul is alive and with you! it will take some time to get to the point where you have enough energy to climb out of the deep dark hole.THAT IS OK. there is no death like that of losing your child. but you can and will find peace with this. Ty has gone home to be with his father in heaven. he is safe from pain or harm. but i know you are here and the separation from him is heart breaking. it will not always be this painful. I PROMISE YOU!!!!! |
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Tracey (Terrell's MOM)
IP: 141.152.56.31 Nov 6th, 2006 - 6:31 PM |
Re: They say Time Heals All
Kathy, your wound is a little over three months old and still fresh. When my son first died, people would say the same thing to me and I thought just like you that time could never heal the wound of losing my only child. At first, a thick crusty scab grows over the wound, then after that, pieces of the scab start breaking away and find yourself smiling at memories of your child, laugh at the funny things they said or did, you realize that you cry less often, and no longer wake up each day mad that you woke up instead of dying. Although, the wound begins to heal, remnants of the scab remain but each day that you move forward, the scab grows a little smaller each day. The LORD heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalms 147:3). Stay Strong for Ty Love Tracey (Terrell's MOM) |
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Karren ~ Christopher's Mom in Mississippi
IP: 70.152.88.88 Nov 7th, 2006 - 11:36 AM |
Re: They say Time Heals All
Kathy, As hard as it is to believe, TIME is a big part of the answer. You are so new to this journey and your grief is so fresh that you just need to take a second at a time and travel through your grief. The hard thing is the way we are all treated especially in the beginning. It seems that we are alone so much of the time. And while some may think this is not good for us, I think that in time is proves to be a healer. It gives us time to relive memories and cry and scream and most of all pray. And in time you will see that those memories will bring less tears and more smiles to your heart. I am only 3 years into this on Nov. 18th, and it is still extremely hard, but it's different. I was told the night it happened by a very close friend who had lost his son to a car accident that it really didn't get eaiser, but it would get different. And he was so right. And nobody will ever understand it unless they have walked in our shoes, so whenever you need to cry, screem, or just chat ... you come to us. We have all been on the part of the journey that you are on. Just some of us have made it farther down the road than others and those are the ones who will understand exactly where your heart is at this time. Just don't ever give up on God. Even if you get angry with him.... he understands that and he will still be right there for you. We are here for you too, God Bless you today and each day to come, Karren |
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