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Janice
 IP: 205.188.116.200 Nov 4, 06 - 7:15 PM |
Thanksgiving
It has been almost 9 months since my beautiful Maeghann was taken from us, The family is supposed to get together at a relatives house in which last year When she was still with us we all met there for Thanksgiving My youngest who is 16 she will turn 17 Nov 26th is having a hard time with the idea She says that is the last place we seen that Jerk that killed Maeghann, For they were there with their four children How can We handle this it is gonna be hard for it is our 1st Thanksgiving without her and also a reminder somewhat of Him What can we do???? |
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connie marchant
IP: 216.166.159.4 Nov 4th, 2006 - 10:07 PM |
Re: Thanksgiving
Janice, Our first Thanksgiving without Justin, we went to a resturant so we weren't around anything that reminded us of the many Thanksgivings we had with him and now there were no more!!! This seemed to help us survive the holiday! If you don't think you can handle being where you were a year ago don't do it. Thoughts and Prayers, Connie |
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Kathy Mordecai \\\\\"Ty\\\\\'s Mom\\\\\"
IP: 70.128.123.89 Nov 5th, 2006 - 9:16 PM |
Re: Thanksgiving
Janice I know what you are saying and I know what you feel. My son, Ty was murdered on August 3, 2006, I still can't face the fact that he is gone and will never be home again. My oldest son's birthday is November 28th, he also is struggling with acceptance of his brother's murder. For the first time ever he dreads his birthday, he dreads Thanksgiving, because his brother, my son will not be there. Ty was always the life of the party, life of everything no matter what it was, if he was there, he made everyone laugh, that is just who he was. I don't know how we will get through the holidays without him, hell I can't hardley get through just a typical day since his murder. I don't know the answers, we all just have to survive one day at a time. You and yours will be in my prayers along with all other Moms on Thanksgiving and throughout the holiday season. Perhaps together we can make it. Kathy "Ty's Mom" |
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Michelle Simon
IP: 65.196.101.100 Nov 6th, 2006 - 8:41 AM |
Re: Thanksgiving
This will also be the first Thanksgiving and holiday without my precious Myles. I am trying to make plans to attend several church services, see a movie and possibly a play and take my daughter to the children's museum while I am visiting family, so that I don't have many free moments to dwell on my son not being present in body. Holidays have always been special for my family and I want them to continue to be. It will be extremely difficult but if I focus on my daughter Sydney and her happiness, I feel I can get through it. Also, my son was a joyful child and I really believe he would want us to enjoy the holidays. Lastly, a wise person told me recently not to focus on the way Myles died, but on his wonderful life, albeit brief. I struggle with this since he died a violent death but I know deep down that but for that time when he was being hurt by a vicious monster, he was my happy baby and I try to focus on him that way. http://myles-simon.memory-of.com/ |
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Karren ~ Christopher's Mom in Mississippi
IP: 70.152.88.88 Nov 7th, 2006 - 11:53 AM |
Re: Thanksgiving
It is amazing how we all know how each other feels, yet we still have to deal with each holiday on our own terms. And there is no right or wrong way to do it. I feel that it will probaly change a bit each year until we find what is comfortable and easiest to handle. And I am surely not the one to give advice on the holiday thing. Christopher has been gone almost 3 years and I have not yet put up another Christmas Tree. And I have not spent Thanksgiving with family. Christopher was killed the week before Thanksgiving and I just wanted to be alone that day. Nobody wanted to let me, but I insisted. Even Halloween was especially hard, because it was Christopher's favorite holiday. Each year I have said this will be the year I put up a tree, but the closer it gets.... I just don't want to. And up until now Chris has gone along with it, but I can't expect him to do this forever. (I'm gonna work on it) And I know my Christopher wouldn't want me to be so Ba Hum Bug! And be making everyone else suffer for it just to keep from upsetting me. So I guess everyone will do as they are able and God Bles you ALL. My thoughts will be with you all, knowing that I am not alone with this hollow heart. Karren |
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Robin Chris\' Mom Always
IP: 67.189.233.215 Nov 8th, 2006 - 8:48 AM |
Re: Thanksgiving
Janice, my son Chris was murdered 3 weeks before Thanksgiving. The first two years I did not celebrate any of the holiday's and the people that loved me understood. If you can't do it DON'T...Everyone grieves different. If it will make you feel better you can serve at a soup kitchen or you can just sleep the day away like I usually do...Don't let anyone pressure you..This is your grief, your journey..Do what you can handle..That's all any of us can do..My thoughts and prayers are with you..Robin Chris' Mom Always |
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Lorre
IP: 207.200.116.70 Nov 8th, 2006 - 9:41 AM |
Re: Thanksgiving
Hi Gals, Sometimes it doesn't seem like there is alot to be thankful for...This year we have added my aunt and precious grandma to our lost family members, so our family just gets smaller and smaller. One of the most affirming things I did after I lost my family was to plant some daffodil bulbs. I was a complete inexperienced gardner but choosing a special site (can even be a pot outisde that you can write messages on with a sharpee) and planting those bulbs in memory of my family made me feel better, particularly when they began to come up in the spring! What a feeling of exhileration! I felt very in tune with nature and the cycles of life and rejoiced with every sprout I saw. The next year I was obnoxious enough to break into the cemetary and plant them across from the mausoleam. They still bloom and replicate every year! Makes me smile! Love, Lorre |
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