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Jane Jones
 IP: 71.54.144.65 Nov 3, 06 - 4:13 PM |
One Year Anniversary need some help
I just needed to express to my MOM friends how hard these last two weeks have been. Monday November 6 will mark the first anniversary of Matt being murdered. We are having a really hard time. Just when I thought the endless days of crying were getting better this came around and we are all crying all day long. We have been through all the firsts now but this is way worse than any of the rest. I guess my daughter summed it up best when she said last year we didn't know it was going to happen and this year we know when its coming. Our hearts are so broken and time has not helped. There will never be a day when this is okay. We are having a memorial service for Matt Sunday at 3pm at his grave and I have tried to make it a celebration of his life and tried to make it a time when we could remember happily and move on but I can tell you it is not working. I would like for you to help us out on something we would like to see. Matt is on Teen Angels forever in the light and we are trying so hard to move his place up to No. 1 to mark his anniversary. If there is anyway you could visit his website and look under his banner for the link and vote for his site we would certainly appreciate the help. We can only vote 50 times a day so we seem to be spinning our wheels trying to move him up. We are flying pink and black ribbons on our cars and we have had people who have followed our stories in other states also write and tell us they are flying them and what a touching memorial to us. Just pray to get us through because right now I don't know if we are going to make it or not. Thank you for helping us out on this we love you guys. Jane |
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michele
IP: 71.97.129.97 Nov 4th, 2006 - 5:53 AM |
Re: One Year Anniversary need some help
dear jane, i just wanted to tell you that it has been six years since the murder of both of my children. I remember the "firsts" as the hardest anniversaries for me. do not try to rush the greiveing process. Know that this is a pain that will lessen with time. but you will never move past this. but every year it gets easier. sometimes society wants us to "get over" our pain and the post traumatic stress at the year mark because it is hard to see our pain. do not be lured in by this. embrace you greif. it will help you to heal. society did no lose thier son-YOU did. so do not feel like there is a time for your greif to end. do not be discouraged by the fact that this is still so painful. it will get easier every time it comes around. my prayers go out to you at this difficult time. god bless, michele |
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Tracey (Terrell's MOM)
IP: 141.152.56.31 Nov 4th, 2006 - 8:25 AM |
Re: One Year Anniversary need some help
Hi Jane: I visted Matt's site on Teen Angels and lit a candle for him. Your granddaughter, Matti is beautiful and you are blessed to have a peace of Matt live on. Michele is right when she said it does get easier. MOMS don't get over our pain of our lost, we get through it. I will be praying that God grants you and your family a little peace and comfort on the anniversary of Matt's death and everyday thereafter. Love and a Big Hug Tracey (Terrell's MOM) |
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Les'stepmom
IP: 4.253.23.64 Nov 4th, 2006 - 4:45 PM |
Re: One Year Anniversary need some help
Jane A hug from me as well. I have been so down this last week knowing it marks 2 days..1 my sons murder 11-1-05 and my late husbands 51st birthday would have been today. I remember the gut wrenching feeling on my husbands 50th birthday, since our son had not called. I knew something terrible had happened. We didn't learn until Nov. 22nd that our son was dead. I miss them both so much and have spent the last week fighting to keep my head above the stormy waters. |
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Michelle Simon
IP: 65.196.101.100 Nov 6th, 2006 - 9:02 AM |
Re: One Year Anniversary need some help
Good morning Jane, I lit a candle for your son Matt. I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope that all involved with his murder get their just rewards. It is shame that young people think so little of a person's life that not one but many of them would set out on a path to take a person's life without any regard. I am praying for you during this difficult anniversary. |
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Robin Chris' Mom Always
IP: 67.189.233.215 Nov 8th, 2006 - 8:42 AM |
Re: One Year Anniversary need some help
Jane, there are no easy answers..My Chris' "Angel Date" was yesterday (11/7/03) and even though it's been 3 years you grieve that day over and over again. The best we can do is try and keep all the joyful memories we have of our children and hold them close to our heart. What get's me through the "rough" days is knowing that someday I will be with my son again. Know that I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that your journey on this horrible road will eventually bring you the peace you so deserve. I am so sorry that your here on this site, but these are the women that will carry you through times like this. They are amazing. I will keep Matt in my thoughts and I know Matt is in a much better place than we are...Robin Chris' Mom Always |
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BERNADETTE
IP: 124.176.151.199 Nov 14th, 2006 - 6:13 AM |
Re: One Year Anniversary need some help
i know exactly how you feel; Xaviers 1st anniversary is 6/12/2006; i loved him so much in life but since his death the guilt has been so bad; especially lately; how can i ever forget being such a ***** to him at times; as a single parent working shift work i was ofen grumpy and selfish; god id give anything for this not to be anything but a long bad dream |
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Yvonne Sheppard
IP: 71.203.250.153 Nov 19th, 2006 - 9:30 AM |
Re: One Year Anniversary need some help
Jane, I understand exactly what you mean. Joshua was murdered on the 26th of this month, the night after Thanksgiving. It seems like one long month, not a year. I think I am just now fully coming out of shock? I dont know, but it being nearly a year since I have talked to or seen Joshua is way too long. I guess in the back of my mind, I have been waiting for him to come back. Love, Yvonne |
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